How to know that you are being “used”? 

How to know that you are being “used”? 

Men who wield power show the below attribute:

” They do great (praiseworthy) things by themselves but things that are unholy & sinister by others.” 

So, in case, you are being “used”, it would be potentially for “something evil”. 

Consider an example: Person A wants to destroy the goodwill of B. He identifies that person C is an arch enemy of B. So, A approaches C & instigates him to take some action against B. In the whole process, A remains behind the veil but benefits from the actions of C.

So, how to escape such evil-plots: 

~ doubt when people want you to do “something bad” to others. It could be that you might well be used just as a means to accomplish someone else’s task

~ if someone becomes extremely generous & welcoming to you suddenly then doubt his/her intentions

~ never allow anyone to override your sovereignty (by not being dependent upon anyone) 

~ never share much about your friends & enemies (especially about the people you despise) 

~ never take interest in other’s life & usually avoid talking about people 

~ focus on your work (most of the time) 

With Great Love, 

Er. Amit Yadav

http://www.stayfoolish.in

How to avoid giving a way to others interests over yours? 

How to avoid giving a way to others interests over yours?

Suppose you have just returned from a movie & someone asks you to accompany him/her for a movie which is to start after few hours. Consider another scenario, someone pays a visit to you after his/her exam & you have a deadline approaching for your work. 

In situations like above, it is better to “let the other person know & understand about your priorities”. 

For a person coming out the examination hall, fun & entertainment could be an agenda, but not for you!

There are some who seek pleasure 24*7. Don’t entertain much such people. 

Some quick hacks for life: 

~ be disciplined even when you enjoy. Enjoyment without boundaries & constraints is dangerous 

~ have fun & enjoyment but it must never come in way to your dreams (you must know when to reduce the intake of activities that are mere the source of pleasure in your life) 

~ you must have control over yourself (just because someone offers you “something free of cost” doesn’t means that you should fall for them. Most often, they are a ploy to get you into “the team”) 

With Great Love,

Er. Amit Yadav

http://www.stayfoolish.in

7 reasons why you should not use “Sarahah”? 

7 reasons why you should not use “Sarahah”? 

While there might be many reasons to use Sarahah like to get honest feedback, to improve yourself, etc. But it all comes at a cost. 

1. Feedbacks may not be honest : especially in case of girls. They could be baised.

2. Friends are few : only few people get to know your “true nature”. With them you spend most of your time with. They keep on giving you feedback regularly, why you need it from people who might be mere acquaintances? 

3. Feedbacks, do they count? When was the last time on Earth, when you tried to improve yourself after receiving an honest feedback? We all have lot many flaws which we wish to hide & get away with.

4. Online Bullying : since the feedbacks are anonymous, one can use it for bullying 

5. Simple Principle of Life : does the feedback of those who can’t speak up in front of us counts? People should have the balls to speak to us in person (whether good or bad). 

6. Will it change your life? : Facebook helps you to stay in touch with friends & acquaintances. How does Sarahah is going to help you in life at large? One day people will get bored of “giving feedbacks” to you. 

7. Don’t care about others : if you want to keep your life simple & joyfull then don’t get into any creepy thing like Sarahah to satisfy your ego.

So, what you should do? 

With Great Love, 

Er. Amit Yadav

http://www.stayfoolish.in

What should be the nature of the relationships after you have graduated? 

What should be the nature of the relationships after you have graduated? 

They should not be one-way. Only during your college-time you can afford the relationships which are one-way because “you may find few good friends there”. The possibility of nurturing a relationship that converts into a life-long friendship is very unlikely after you step out of the college life. Try to develop relationships which are mutual in nature. After you cross the boundaries of college life, you are seen “as a means” rather than as an end. So, be:

~ family-oriented: after graduating, look into the matters of the family, take some responsibilities & spend most of the time with family members. 

~ focus on dreams rather than people : work hard for your dreams. Only few people will stand by you in times of need. So, don’t expect people to be very warm & welcoming. That could be a BIG MISTAKE to do.

~ Say “No” & “Sorry” : express your inability to attend get-togethers, parties, marriage ceremonies, etc. 

~ Don’t explain : never give a justification for your actions (explain only when you think 80% or more people around you are offended by your actions) 

~ Know your responsibilities : never give advice to anyone on anything. Let them choose the way they want to live their life (of course until & unless that person is very close to you). Most of the time people just need your company to feel better (& not an advice!).

With Great Love,

Er. Amit Yadav

http://www.stayfoolish.in

Why you must always pick low-hanging fruits? 

Why you must always pick low-hanging fruits?

Opportunities have a multiplier effect. One opportunity opens the way for another. So, you must try not to miss opportunities that are easy to seize (the low-hanging fruits). Let’s understand why I say so:

~ Just as we have social security schemes to take care of us in times of crisis, so, becomes the case of “low-hanging fruits”. They act as a security net for us. Like passing 10+2 examination is not a big deal but still many fail (from non-marginalised background) so they kill the opportunities that are available to one after 10+2. 

~ Knowledge too has a multiplier effect. That is, it increases as you choose to put more efforts. Sometimes, picking up low-hanging fruits may seem a bad idea but when you pick them up consistently, they add up & the opportunity seized translates to a BIG ONE. 

~ Ideally you must aim for big opportunities but usually you should never leave the low-hanging fruits-type opportunities (as you can easily catch them with ease without much of your time & efforts & maybe working part-time)

~ As you successfully pick up the low-hanging fruits, your confidence boosts. It is not important in life how you start/from where you start but how you end/finish. So, everything depends on “what you learn & do along the way”. 

So, while you focus on to seize the best of the best opportunities, don’t forget to pick up the seemingly not-so-good opportunities too.

With Great Love, 

Er. Amit Yadav

http://www.stayfoolish.in

Why you must always pick low-hanging fruits? 

Why you must always pick low-hanging fruits?

Opportunities have a multiplier effect. One opportunity opens the way for another. So, you must try not to miss opportunities that are easy to seize (the low-hanging fruits). Let’s understand why I say so:

~ Just as we have social security schemes to take care of us in times of crisis, so, becomes the case of “low-hanging fruits”. They act as a security net for us. Like passing 10+2 examination is not a big deal but still many fail (from non-marginalised background) so they kill the opportunities that are available to one after 10+2. 

~ Knowledge too has a multiplier effect. That is, it increases as you choose to put more efforts. Sometimes, picking up low-hanging fruits may seem a bad idea but when you pick them up consistently, they add up & the opportunity seized translates to a BIG ONE. 


~ Ideally you must aim for big opportunities but usually you should never leave the low-hanging fruits-type opportunities (as you can easily catch them with ease without much of your time & efforts & maybe working part-time)

~ As you successfully pick up the low-hanging fruits, your confidence boosts. It is not important in life how you start/from where you start but how you end/finish. So, everything depends on “what you learn & do along the way”. 

So, while you focus on to seize the best of the best opportunities, don’t forget to pick up the seemingly not-so-good opportunities too.

With Great Love, 

Er. Amit Yadav

http://www.stayfoolish.in

Why you should pay more to your employees? 

Why you should pay more to your employees? 

As an employer you can choose to pay your employees at “market wages” or “pay more than the market wages”. 

All firms have the objective of profit-maximization.  So, wouldn’t paying more than the market price to the employees hurt your profits? 

The answer lies in “The Theory of Efficiency Wages” of economics which says that the productivity of the firm rises when the wages are higher than the equilibrium (market rate). 

~ when you pay more, the employees know that “they can’t get greater wages than your firm”, so they tend to work with more responsibility 

~ the attrition rate is lower & hence you need not to spend on recruitment & fresh – training

~ you can expect greater support & cooperation from employees

~ productivity of the firm rises which reflects in greater profits 

The above approach is also applicable to relationships. The only difference is that instead of “wages” what counts in relationships is “how you treat others”. The better treatment you give, the more cooperation you receive. 

Hence, always find some time to :

~ help others in small ways

~ eat, laugh & have fun together

~ share the fruits of your hardwork

With Great Love, 

Er. Amit Yadav

http://www.stayfoolish.in

Guide to a better life after first job. 

Guide to a better life after first job. 

1. Stay away from “pleasure-seeking people”.

Once in the job, you should stay away from pleasure-seeking people –  be it acquaintances, colleagues, and not-so-close-friends. However, if you remain close to them it only manifests into:
– going for late night-parties, picnics, weekend parties, trips etc. (it not only involves wastage of your money but also your time). Discipline is very necessary, more so in case of limiting pleasure activities. 

– it hinders you to find time for self-learning & self-development 

– it restricts you to spend more time with your family 

2. Stay away from those who are not laborious. 

Stay away from people who are not hardworking. Habits are highly contagious. So, the best is to stay away from people who are not so hardworking.

It is advisable to stay-focused to your career & dreams after your first job. 

3. Family matters a lot. 

This is the best time to contribute & give back productively to the family. Remember, they always stood with you (& never left you alone). 

4. Keep your life simple. 

Don’t go after taking a loan to buy a big car, fancy items, etc. Keep life simple with less “material items”. Devote most of your time to learn, skill yourself, make connections, etc.

You must have a long-term goal (5 years from to 10 years) but you should work with a kind of urgency to their fulfillment. 

With Great Love, 

Er. Amit Yadav 

http://www.stayfoolish.in

Act foolishly but deliver results. 

Act foolishly but deliver results. 

Most people around you are pleasure-seeking. So, the best way to make them dependent upon you is by “acting foolishly”. The louder they laugh, the better. Entertain them & they will admire you. They will enjoy your company & will do anything to remain in your company.

The story doesn’t ends here. You also need to deliver results (concrete results in career, relationships, health, wealth, etc.).

 Fun & results should go hand in hand. The only time you enjoy should be with others. When alone, work for your goals & deliver exceptional results. 

Some marvelous life-hacks:

~ since you enjoy with others (& not alone) , try to keep your life as simple as possible otherwise (no movie, no music, no net surfing for useless things, no TV, etc.) 

~ when alone think about the ways to escalate yourself to the next-level of success & implement it as soon as possible (you are NEVER TOO SUCCESSFUL TO NOT TO DESIRE ANOTHER SUCCESS!) 

~ you must have “something” that you can do while in the company of friends, travelling, chaos, when you don’t feel good,  etc. (it could be analysing others way of talking, their language, usage of funny words, body-language, extrapolating the conversations in your mind (usually focus on the consequences), re-visiting your past to gain more insights about life, etc. It will help you immensely in life. Everyone around you us telling a story based upon their experiences so learn from them. 

~ above all, have patience & don’t care about the end. Always focus on MEANS (as long as means are right, end will always be exciting & as desired in most cases). 

With Great Love, 

Er. Amit Yadav

http://www.stayfoolish.in

How to save your time? 

How to save your time? 


Make commitments based on time & let them known to others. Having a fixed schedule helps you to remain disciplined in your life with respect to time.
Like- you would be going for a morning walk/jogging/exercising at early morning, you don’t go out or receive any phone call after 9 pm in night, you don’t meet anyone on Sunday (it is reserved for family), you don’t attend any function without timely invitation, etc. Sooner or later, people will respect your time-commitments. 

Some suggestions :

~ fix time for usage of social media (as minimal as possible) 

~ avoid chatting with unknown people (in fact, avoid chatting with anyone). Instead why not make a phone call? Real life is always more beautiful than the virtual world.

~ limit your usage of phone & internet (you will be amazed to see how much time you can save & how much more effective & productive you can be!) 

# Save the Date:

Schedule all your meetings, birthday parties, get-togethers, etc. Time is a very scarce resource & spending it without any consideration will deteriorate your career. Just as we manage our money, time management is very crucial for success in life. Relationships are important but you must have unlimited time for limited special people. Rest of the things can wait. 

With Great Love, 

Er. Amit Yadav

http://www.stayfoolish.in